I have shot a 146gr LRN over 5 gr Bullseye for a pretty light load with minimal muzzle jump. Why not try some of the Rainer HP bullets in a light load... 5 gr is still going to be moving as somewhere around 1,000 FPS which is a respectable punch. I've shot these down to 4.2 gr Bullseye, but they are really passive target loads. PS... remember that placement may be more significance than penetration... if she can hit what she aims at, it may be more effective than a high power round off center.