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    High esteem 'oops'

    So about 15-20 years ago the 'experts' decided that little johnny's self esteem was suffering, and something needed to be done. Part of the problem was the awarding of trophies to the achievers in sports, and clearly that made the 'un-achievers' feel bad. So in our 'enlightened boohooedness' our society decided we needed to pump up their self esteem. No longer would we award trophies for athletic excellence - everyone would get a trophy, and in that way no one's self esteem would take a beating. And we decided to start this nonsense early - singing songs about what wonderful beings we are, starting in kindergarten. We labored and toiled to get their self esteem up, and you know what? It worked.

    This 'high self esteem generation' is starting to drive automobiles, and the unfortunate side effects of all this esteem indoctrination is becoming clear. These kids are never wrong in their own minds, have little or no respect for others, and think primarily of themselves. I noticed it the other day when a young driver committed a hit and run, and was later caught. Her comment about the damage she did to the other persons vehicle was "it wasn't that bad." And besides, wasn't the other drivers 'mommy' just going to buy them another vehicle anyway? It's not surprising if you think about it though. They've never been wrong or 'bad' at anything, and they've got the trophies to prove it, so naturally it must have been the other guys fault. After all they're wonderful, incredible human beings - no matter what kind of little turds they really are.

    I feel particularly sorry for these kids when they get into the real world and find out that everyone doesn't get a trophy, and the world in fact, does not revolve around them. I can only hope that many of them decide on careers in psychology, cause in 15 or 20 years there will be a lot of them in need of their services.

    That's not to say that all kids suffer from this, and for those of you parents who have managed to raise kids with a sense of humility and concern for others I say good job! And all the more so having done it in an environment designed to shape your kids to the government's ill conceived ideal.

    This is just something I've noticed of late, and I thought it might stimulate some conversation. I'm interested in what the rest of you think about it. I probably won't be awarding trophies for any posts, though...
    Last edited by dbeardslee; 06-09-2011 at 09:29 AM.
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    I couldn`t agree more! When I was a kid if you didn`t win in an athletic event you didn`t get a trophey. A lot of todays youth doesn`t have a clue about the realities of life, and when they get a taste of the real world they are in for a rude awakening.

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    That strikes a nerve. Can't tell you how many average kid's rooms I've seen over the years with complete walls covered with trophies of all kinds. These are good kids who may well have a tough time later when real world expectations arise.

    Great post! No awards, however.
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    dbeardslee:

    Thank you for a very thoughtful and insightful

    I think you are right on target!

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    Great post. I feel that I was born a little late, like 20-30 years late, as I just don't fit in with the large majority of my generation.
    My dad was my little league baseball coach, and I was a terrible batter. I could play any position on the field and was a pretty decent pitcher, but could not bat to save my life. He worked me like a mule, told me that if I wasn't the best on the team, I might as well not even show up! I got better and actually had a ride to play ball in college but after an injury during my senior year of high school that ship sailed for me.
    He kept score for my team, because "you kids need to know what losing looks and feels like or else it will become a habit!" Sure there were some angry mom's, but he coached a pretty good ball team, because he expected the best and rode us if we didn't give it our best.
    My kid (God willing) will never receive a trophy for "attendance", if he/she isn't the best, I'll explain why and work with them to make them as good as possible at anything they do.
    Most of my generation are silver spooners, and it annoys the hell out of me. I've been on my own financially since I graduated high school. I bought my own vehicles and paid insurance. The second I used a cell phone for anything other than calling my parents to let them know where I was, I paid a percentage of the bill based on "personal" use. My dad bailed me out of a sticky financial situation and I promptly attempted to pay him back. He told me "That was your get outta jail free card, I didn't expect you to last near this long without cashing it in! I guess I am as good as I say I am!" He wouldn't accept the repayment, but told me there were no more freebies.
    This High Self-esteem generation is why the liberal movement is so strong...everyone deserves a trophy for trying. Absolutely wrong, people need to know what losing looks like or it becomes a habit and not viewed as wrong. You can't always win, but if you expect people to treat you the same whether you win or lose you couldn't be more confused IMHO.
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    Shokr21 - kudos to your dad. Looks like he managed to raise a kid with his head on straight. And kudos to you too for seeing through the BS to the heart of the matter - if you want to be the best you need to work hard, and bear the responsibilities for your successes and failures on your own shoulders. Your shoulders get broader that way, and in the end you wind up a more self sufficient and successful individual. And isn't that what all parents want for their kids?
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    When kids are raised like this many times you end up with a "Weiner".
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    Don't worry, the problem will be self-limiting: Self-Esteem Masturbation Instead of Shared Sex | Scientific Aesthetic

    Also in a social, rather than genetic sense... it has been shown that inflating self-esteem artificially reduces performance. Exploding the Self-Esteem Myth: Scientific American
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    OK, the problem is really floccinaucinihilipilification.
    (I couldn't resist - I came across the word in the Scientific American article I cited above. It has to be one of the best words ever. I'm still trying to figure out how to pronounce it.)
    Ya gotta read the article!
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    Madkaw = so would you like to untie the knot you put in my tongue? LOL

    Also in a social, rather than genetic sense... it has been shown that inflating self-esteem artificially reduces performance.
    I suspected as much. There's that damn common sense rearing its ugly head again . It's too bad though - it made so much sense in a sterile laboratory.
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