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    Cemetery/gravesite visitation

    Do you take time to visit the gravesite of your passed family members? I know this is somewhat a strange question to ask, but still curious the same.

    I am sure some will say Yes and others NO, and for various reasons. Maybe visitation is felt that you do so out of respect. And some may say "No" due to distance to the burial site.

    It has been a number of years since I have visited the final resting place of my parents, but then it is a 1,300 mile round trip. However, I have given thought that with Veterans day fast approaching, maybe I should make the trip up and visit while the Leavenworth National Cemetery is in full bloom of flags and patriotism.

    Respect of my Parents, as well as those who served our country.

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    Nope.
    Never have.
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    No......they're not there and besides, I'm not takin' any chances on screwing things up for them. From my own experience, I can't deny that there are spirits of the dead which are somehow bound to Earth. There is speculation that one cause, is the unwillingness of loved ones to let them go and that memorializing any one location, could possibly anchor their spirit to that place. I think of those that have passed from wherever I happen to be at the time.
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    Only one close by is my father who passed away in 2016. I've been by twice. Mom goes every three months or so.

    Everyone else is five hundred or so miles away.

    I've always thought burial is excessively expensive and a waste of good land. I know some religions have a reason
    for burial. Dad's burial cost over $12K, coffin and vault. Wife had her mother cremated and it cost like $1200. We
    got her mothers ashes in a plastic bag in a cardboard box and finally scattered them in the mountains where she
    had wanted to build a house.

    Wife and I are being cremated. Survivors want to visit us they can look at our urns on their mantle, if they want
    to keep them. They've been told they can dump us at wife's family's place in Connecticut if they want to or
    elsewhere if it's more convenient, for them.

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    I visit family graves occasionally, if I happen to be close to one of them. I don't make it a habit though, they're not there.
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    No. While I can fully understand why some people seek out loved ones I do not. My wife and I are not buying burial plots. Just cremate us and spread us around our favorite places. Ocean, woods, mountains. Back to nature. Thanks

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    Yes, I do. My parents are buried about 3 miles away. I go when I feel like it.
    The wife goes twice a year to her parents grave about 150 miles away. They have an annual meet called decoration, and they go once more to clean up the cemetery. Hundreds of people attend the decoration service- its a pretty big deal.
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    I do when i can . Way i look at it is if your moved to do such a visit then you should . There’s always a reason for that feeling . Fulfill it !

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    I have visited my parents' graves twice since they both died in 2008. My oldest sister and my paternal grandparents are also right next to them. But I don't think my parents' spirits are there just hanging around in the cemetery waiting for visitors. That is only their bodies, so I do not feel compelled to visit. When I go back to Michigan again (where they are buried) I might visit out of respect but it is not something I did much even when I lived in the same town and visiting the graves was much easier.

    My grandfather, who was born in a sod hut in Nebraska in the late 1880's, always said that when he died he just wanted to be left along the side of the road and let the wolves feed off of him! LOL Well, that didn't happen so at least I know where his body is buried. I did love his attitude about it, though.
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    The only grave site I visit is that of my middle son, gone 19 years now, maybe every three months, if I am at Academy, which is across the Street from Resthaven. The wife goes at least once a month to plant fresh flowers and water them, and cleans the lime deposits from the cemetary;s irragation system off the granite and the bronze plaque on the monument. I had wanted to bury him on a family plot on the side of a hill overlooking prairie land about 20 miles North and East of Lubbock, but the wife wanted him buried closer.

    For me, cremation and spread my ashes over the Davis Mountains. I would be perfectly happy in a one room cabin somewhere around Ft. Davis and becoming a hermit.
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