For women and men with weak hands and arms there is this. Rack the Slide | Cornered Cat
I've been on a quest to find a gun my wife likes for about three years. She had a hard time racking the slide on ANY of my semi-autos, so we started out with my Ruger LCR in .38 spl - she liked the feel of the gun and the light weight, but it had too much recoil for her. Well, that's easily resolved! Got a Ruger LCR in .22 magnum. Unfortunately, that had a double action only trigger pull of 16+ pounds and she couldn't hit the broad side of a barn with it because the pull was so heavy. Okay, let's get a .22 magnum revolver with a hammer so she can shoot it single action - got the Taurus 941. Trigger pull was fine in SA, but it took her both hands to pull back the hammer - not much good for a defensive situation. I read a lot about the Taurus TCP, and decided to give it a try - she was able to rack the slide and the recoil was manageable for the amount she shoots. Decided to try my commander size RIA 1911 in .22TCM as well, and she decided that she liked the 'feel' of it better than the TCP - virtually no recoil, racking the slide takes two fingers, and it's more reliable than a rimfire .22LR. Not to mention that the energy of the TCM is about the same as a 9mm. The bad thing is I think I've lost my favorite TCM - the good thing is I've managed to collect several new toys along the journey!!
PT-709SS, PT-1911DT, PT-809, PT-92, Model 66, Model 992, PT-738BSS
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Bottom line is, you won't know till she tries it. Find a range with rental guns and have her try everything she can.
Walther CCP. Check out my review on TA. 250+ Rounds no problems. Easy to rack, easy to shoot.
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My wife doesn't like to rack my 9mm either, so she got a Ruger LCP 380 Auto. She doesn't have any problems racking the slide on it, and it fits her hand better. I did get buy and install the magazine extension for it, it's a good fit.
My daughter settled on a .357 snubbie revolver and shoots .38 special in it.
1. She always had enough trouble racking the slide on a 9mm that she didn't want to chance doing emergency clearing while under fire.
2. Racking a .38 is easier, but shooting light guns (including .380) is tougher because they're so light.
3. She shoots very well with .38 in the heavier frame of a .357.
4. Bad guys attacking a woman are expecting easy prey and haven't prepared themselves for a life-and-death battle, which makes six shots for a woman more effective than six shots for a man. This is more of a significant combat point that big, tough male gun advisors realize.
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I would take her to a rental range and let her try whatever gun she thinks is best, then let her pick her gun out. I would hate to have someone try to pick my gun for me.
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If she likes the size but it is just the recoil and she wants to stay with the 9mm, try a Kahr CW-9. They are the softest shooting of the single stack 9mm, they have great trigger and are as easy to CC as the 709.
If she just wants to go with something less recoiling, any of the .32 Revolvers are good. The Ruger SP101 in .327 Fed Mag is probably the best of the concealable DA revolvers, but the Charter Arms and Taurus snubbies in .32 H&R Mag are good too. With a modern revolver in .327 Fed Mag or H&R, you can run .32 H&R Mag with a 85 grain XTP and get 1,000 fps with very little recoil. If you reload you can push 100-115 grain bullets at 1,000 fps with some recoil, but greater impact out of those snubbies.
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